I can remember last January (2017) reading that the most successful entrepreneurs know the magical power of January 1st, they plan for it and then walk into the new year ready to step off and create new habits…new systems…new income…and it all made perfect sense to me. Don’t miss a single opportunity to create the next year and start on Day 1. While I had planned a bit I didn’t have the detail to launch an attack on life on January 1st. And after the hoopla of the holidays, and without a concrete plan and the regular few new clients that trickled in…well, for me 2017 was off and running.
However, at the start of 2017 I did say to the universe, “I just want my life to look completely different by the end of 2017.” As a powerful manifester I should have known better than to be so vague…what I meant was that I wanted my business to be significantly bigger…
Instead, the universe, acting with zippo direction from me, delivered to me exactly what I had asked for – and I sit here on December 31st still a bit dazed. From the start of his illness my children were living with me full-time, adjusting to visiting their father in ICU and rehab, no longer able to have full conversations with him due to a tracheotomy and feeding tube that were inserted just 7 days after diagnosis . They learned and saw the impact of daily radiation and weekly chemo. Life was already completely different and they hoped it was temporary…and then he died…yep, the guy that promised to be immortal, left us on July 2nd – only 81 days after his diagnosis. During this time I also noticed my clothes disappearing out of my drawers at an alarming rate – ahhhh…three daughters full-time.
During the “15 minutes of fame,” which to us parents who have lost the co-parent – is the time when the whole world gathers around you in a gigantic show of support for you and your children. Ex, or not, you get promises of support, “we are going to check in with you,” “know you are not alone.” Then reality sets in, people start telling you what to do with your own children and have the nerve to talk down to you when they remind you it is your job to honor his memory. I was sued by his family as they also managed through a loophole to saddle me with his tremendous debt. As if that wasn’t bad enough, health and dental insurance, college applications, car titles and car insurance, and how my middle daughter was going to finish out her senior year of high school where her father lived – dumped in my lap without an iota of care – at one point the family sent me his tax bill and told me to pay it. Gone was the loving and respectful relationship I had built from scratch with my co-parent. The day he died his sister called me screaming.
Yep…life was looking completely different.
So, not to get caught again with my manifesting pants down, I have been much more specific. After-all, I have to be. The very powerful messages I put out the universe seem to be taken in the most literal sense. This year will be about building me.
I have told the universe I now have boundaries – no one can come into my house (mind, heart, parenting) and push me around. My business will build with new systems, new staff, and new clients that are all in place – and more, lots more, will be coming in…and I have a profoundly different outlook on life.
Tonight I will ring in 2018 as my dear sister marries the most kind-hearted and loving perfect man that she manifested. We have both come a long way since she stood at the backdoor of her home years ago, ranting about who the heck would ever want to come into her insane life. Now, we have both hopped across the river and find ourselves living the same mile apart here in PA that we had in NJ. Weird.
I will be wearing a dress owned by my other bestie which, is quite different for me as well. That woman knows how to shop – and look fabulous – and I am grateful to take advantage of her legwork.
And, as the clock strikes midnight I will be holding myself accountable for every second of time and what I choose to do with it – I will be relentlessly pursuing my dreams – in a way I have never walked before
Tomorrow I will sit with my family but also for a while with my business – lay out those boundaries and continually remind us all of the very specific things I am manifesting in 2018 …and savor the opportunity of starting fresh on day one with a new year.
In 2017 I am leaving behind my very heavy heart and profound sadness I have carried for the last 6 months for my dear friend. I believe that in many ways I have been the one to care the most about my friend and all that he is missing with our children – several times a day, every single day, I have cried for his pain. But, I believe that he would want me to be mosying on – and what better time to do that than on NYE.
2017 gave me gifts and lessons while it robbed me blind at the same time. I bid it a fond farewell and look forward…with specificity of course.